Dont Even know you anymore....

So the subject of this post really covers two topics.... 1- I have been slipping when it comes to getting on OH and this is the first time in a long long time that I have been back..  Wow, I really need to update my profile and get to know all the new peeps in the 20's section.  Well I hope to be back and active in this area for the days to come.... 2- I just recently saw a co-worker / friend that I haven't seen in a few years.  It wasn't really awkward for me but her comments was "It's like I don't even know you anymore."  At first I was kind of shocked, but then it hit me....  With such a dramatic change in my appearance, my spirit, and my overall outlook on life, who does know me now and days?  Do I have to rebuild relationships with people that have not seen me in a while so that they know it is the same personality? Anyone encountered a similar experience? I will try and update my profile and pictures over the next day or two so keep an eye out...

Hi and welcome back!!  I recently encountered this problem...I have made alot of changes in my life in the nearly 10 months since my surgery the one most recent was where I was attending church. My Mom of course was very dissapointed about this (she is Church of God) and my decision and said to me "I wish now you would have stayed fat" It nearly knocked the breath out of me. My Mom and I are very close and I know she was extremely upset but I had serious health issues ya know? I know she said it because of the "humility" factor...me not feeling good about myself equals church attendance...I am ready to be an adult in every sense of the word...ya know? I am still the sweet person I was before surgery just prettier and a smaller presence...the ironic thing is I wasn't always in church before surgery...oh well I still love her and don't hold any grudge because that would just make me miserable... Have a great Friday!

hey, why does it matter what Church you go to, at least you are going!  Your mom just wanted to get at you but make sure you let her know that trying to belittle you will not get the reslult she wants.  If you bend and keep doing what she says then she will keep knocking you down when she doesn't get her way... 

Sorry to side-bust on your thread but after reading through your profile it really is scary how close our stats are. I weighed in at my doctors office at 318 on my first surgeon's appointment. I'm now down to about 280 and am just waiting to hit the table in two weeks.

I am amazed at your progress in such a short period of time. You're doing really great!

It'll take time to get relationships current with the way you are.  Just think about how long it takes post-ops to get used to their new selves, and you are with yourself 24/7.  It makes sense that those around us are going to take a while to get used to our changes as well.  It is a good thing.  Relationships are supposed to be evolving creatures - just be patient and give yourself and your friends time.  I hope it all goes well for you!